To Gay to Catholic but wanting to Catholic

By Turtle

I’m gay.

Really gay.

Most of my friends at school know that I’m a lesbian, my brother knows, and my sister is on her way to knowing.

I’m not really that scared about coming out. I know my family doesn’t support it, but I don’t always have to follow what my family believes.

I’m not really a strong catholic, I’ve just recently been thinking of trying to be more faithful and in the church but this is a big hurdle for me.

I know when I am older I want to be a mother. I’ve always been the more motherly person in my friend groups and I just enjoy taking care of people, I feel like it’s kind of a calling for me, but at the same time I am realllllllly gay.

It’s a problem for me. I don’t know exactly what to think, I’m trying to trust my instincts but people in my own family have told me that my instincts are wrong.

What do?

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2 Responses to To Gay to Catholic but wanting to Catholic

  1. Rodrigo Muniz says:

    Instincts are not necessarily always wrong. However I would not rely on my instincts as a means to determine what is morally right or wrong. That job is already done. God clearly lists what he expects from us in the bible and through the teachings of The Catholic Church. The hard part is acting in accordance to his teachings. However, God promises to provide us with the resources necessary to complete any task he puts us through. Since God took a Divine and Human nature in Jesus Christ the tools he provides us with are both earthly and divine. We must ask for those tools and take advantage of them. The most immediately available tools that he provides for us to be successful in any situation are within an arms reach; The Seven Holy Sacraments, Baptism, Confirmation, Eucharist, Reconciliation, Anointing of the sick, Holy Orders, and Matrimony.
    This is the Best place to start.

  2. Gabrielle says:

    You don’t do anything. Who says you have to let your sexuality interfere with your plans for life? I know that I will still be able to fulfill my dreams of being a mother, despite being a Catholic lesbian. They’re just parts of you. Don’t let any part of you overwhelm one or more others. Just because you’re gay doesn’t mean you can’t still have a family. NEVER let your sexuality override anything else about you. That was my greatest struggle when I first came out to myself. I felt pressured to let go of my Catholic (and Republican) identity because I was afraid of how they’d conflict. Instead, I’ve found that they just strengthen and validate each other. Through their unusual coexistence, I’ve found one of my life’s meanings: to support both groups and help people of both communities.

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