I believe my husband is a closeted Catholic gay. He married me because he needed to be perfect and I fit the mold. I fell in love with him in college when I believe he was most true to his personality, spontaneous, fun and very loving. (sexuality aside, it was new to both of us). After school, he reverted to being his “perfect” Catholic self. I can’t take it anymore and need to live my life authentically. It’s heartbreaking for me. But I truly believe that if the Catholic Church was truly Christian, he would be allowed to be the incredible person he really is, rather than this shackled spirit trying to fit into this perceived mold of Catholic perfection.