Confused Catholics

Hi everyone my name is Amanda (not really), I’m a sophomore in high school and I think I might be bisexual. I grew up in a large and devoted family, I’m the only girl and the youngest so my mom has always pushed me to be the perfect little girl, and it’s kind of hard when you see others having fun with cars and boy’s stuff. Also I have always been in catholic school so LGBT is not really common here and there are not a lot of people I can relate to. Lately I have been really confused and kind of sad because I don’t know how to tell my family or friends about this situation, most of the people are not really supportive and where I come from this conduct is not appropriate. The problem is that I have never been with a guy and much less with a girl, so how can I know what I want. My faith is big, I go to church every week and I pray a lot with my community and at school. I don’t want anything to change, but I’m afraid once I tell, people won’t see me the same. I expect to have kids in the future and raise them as catholic no matter who I am with. Thanks and please give me some advice.

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3 Responses to Confused Catholics

  1. Jeff says:

    Hey Amanda! I’m John (Jeff). I wrote the “story” called Temptations. I’m a senior in highschool and also have a very similar issue in my life. Now, I know that I won’t be able to help you too much, but I think I may be able to let you know something you didn’t.
    The Catholic Church teaches that those who are experiencing same sex attraction are not evil. They are very much loved by the Catholic Church. Now, if this person is living according to those misshapen attractions, the Church teaches that that is morally wrong. It teaches that that kind of relationship can never work out; it is against the natural law inscribed on our hearts.
    Since you feel like you may be bisexual, you have to realize that it may be a phase. On the other hand, it may not be merely a”phase”. My advice to you is that you do not experiment with this. I did, and was sucked into something awful. I constantly was lying to myself, just so I could keep on doing what I was doing. It is a struggle. If you don’t think you’ll be able to make it with boys, you may want to switch to girls. Please do not. Everyone has so much love to give, and this world lacks so much of it. My desire is to get married and to have kids, but I don’t know if that can happen. If not, instead of giving my love/affection to another man, I can live my life in live by doing God’s will, being there for others, through kindness, etc.
    I’m sorry that this is as long as it is… I just didn’t stop typing! Hopefully, this helped you in some way. Anyways, know that you are beautiful! You are amazing! God bless you!

  2. Lisa says:

    My son who is a college age student and I had this conversation today. He is gay and trying to figure out how to tell his dad and the rest of our extended family. He plans on having kids some day and will raise them catholic. He does not plan on changing his faith or the fact the he recognizes himself as a gay white male.

  3. Sarah says:

    Hi Amanda. My name is Sarah. I am 21 years old and identify as bisexual. When I first realized I was attracted to both genders I was so incredibly scared. I hid it for many years and didn’t know how to cope with it because my Catholic faith is something I love very deeply. I am currently writing a paper about the Catholic LGBT community and let me tell how inspired I am by the people who choose to live their lives according to the Church’s teachings.
    The more questions I seem to ask about same sex attraction the more answers I get. Living life being attracted to women is hard. Knowing I can never be with another woman in a romantic way really is something I struggle with. But knowing God’s love for me and having the support of my close friends and family, has been the key to finding peace in knowing and being okay with who I am. Putting my faith first has not been easy, but it is worth it. I can promise you that. Keep searching for the truth and God will give you more than you can receive.

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